the staff here prefers to have you yapping on the forum, because that might attract new people into debates.
if you want to discuss anything private, you also have the private messages option.
i do get what you're saying though, it's much easier if you just have a chat box, because you can immediately see whenever someone is online, or when you receive a new message. the live messaging is a bit trickier to develop (actually, a bit more performance-heavy on our hardware), but we could implement it some time in the future.
right now we're working on making this site more mobile device friendly, though. once we're through with that, we'll look into some other suggestions.
